Ana Maria Kica Rosie – PCC, Assistant Trainer –

Hello I'm Ana Maria Kică Roşie

For me, coaching is a way of living: an open and curious dialogue, with the people I encounter, with situations, with life.

 

My life experiences taught me how powerful coaching is, specially when it is combined with a skillfully guided process of mindful practice

About me

I am a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and psychotherapist in psychodrama.

 

I worked for 13 years in the corporate sector in business growth areas (commercial performance, revenue management, market measures, marketing research).

 

I hold Bachelor degrees in Marketing and Psychology and a Master degree in Marketing.

 

I coach professionals and entrepreneurs to help them find fulfillment in their business/career and in their personal lives by creating their own definition of success and aligning their actions to inner values and needs.

 

My strength is bringing awareness to what lies beneath the surface by integrating mind, emotions and body.

My Experience

Psychodrama techniques and the science of embodied change.

Entrepreneurship Coaching - purpose driven business.

Training and mentoring professional coaches.

Professional and personal Coaching.

Client Testimonials

Ana has the ability of seeing where I was struggling, she help me to have clarity and support to identifying what was holding me back, and from there, building up the confidence, consistency, and focus in what I wanted.
Ruxanda Bran
Romania
In the safe space Ana created, I felt at ease to share all my dreams, hopes and fears. Feeling fully accepted and seen is a transformational experience. I am impressed by how beautifully she managed to lead me into leading myself.
Corina Nicolae
Switzerland
Ana has a very nurturing, healing, heartfelt attitude. She supported me in balancing mind and heart, and feeling more centered. Now I see more opportunities and possibilities, and that is a great gift. Thank you, Ana!
Melissa Holtz
USA

Diary of a coach-to-be (VII)

Are you ready?

By Anisoara Rosca

Whenever someone asked me: Are you ready? I don’t think I have ever answered: No. Just give me a few more minutes, or… few more years, maybe. And, trust me, I would have so wanted to use the latter option at the dentist.

My go-to answer is pretty much the same: short and non-debatable: Yes, I am. And this is true for 90%-95% of the situations. Clearly, it’s not the dentist’s case that falls into the rest of 5%-10% when I usually add: I am as ready as I can be. And that pretty much sums up the situation.

As you can see, I haven’t always felt ready, but, sometimes, chosen to be. So, let’s shortly talk about being ready, shall we?

I have received this question many times in my life. During school time, before almost every oral exam, when I was picking the subject, thought about it for a few minutes and then there was the question: Are U ready to start? During my professional life, when having to make a presentation and the watchkeeper was telling me a couple of minutes before: You are next in line. Are U ready? Before a basketball match, when joining a tournament and reaching that last short conversation with the coach before the start of the game: Are U ready to win this? In my defence, I played for a while in the junior basketball league a long, long time ago… Back to you now. Do you know that promotion you have been working so hard for? You are in front of the decision to take charge of a larger region or a higher role. You know your workload and your manager knows it too. And just because of that, your manager wants to double-check it: Are U ready for this, or shall we postpone the handover process?

How do you know when you are ready, then? I don’t know about you, but I am not a big believer in ready-made recipes. I have learned along the way that the best recipes are the ones tried, tested and tweaked with that secret ingredient that makes them best for you and the community you are part of. So, what are the secret ingredients that tell me when I am ready? Or shall we call them not-so-secret-any-more ingredients now? Well, since we are here already, here they are!

I am ready when I am willing to be part of that next something and willing to make it part of my journey. Because I have chosen it, or I have allowed it to choose me.

I am ready when I have done my best in preparing for it. I read the theory, rehearsed, practised, gained as much information and experience I could before actually stepping into that next-level act. Furthermore, I have always been kind of a geek, so I guess I still love doing my homework and getting ready for what’s next.

I am ready when I am willing to learn more about it and grow with it. I have always been driven by the need to know more to better serve in what I am doing. Likewise, I know I am on the right path when I want to continue the learning process, try new things, widen my experience and grow until I am ready for the next question and everything that comes with it.

I am ready when I want to share it with others. Whenever I learn something worth sharing, I always feel I need to share it with others and bring my contribution to whatever that next level implies for the entire community I am being part of.

I am ready when I am willing to deal with all the consequences. You know, those little things that sometimes can become a great deal out of nothing and that usually come out after stepping across the I-am-ready threshold. I know am ready when I am willing to deal with all of them, no matter how good or not-so-good those consequences might be.

I am ready when I am excited and want to make it work or make something more out of it. What’s excitement looking like for me? Like butterflies. Do you know those butterflies you have in your belly when starting something? And even if you have all those years of experience, they still don’t want to “mind their own business” and fly away? They are there to tell you are the best secret ingredient you have and to help you share that secret ingredient with others. I guess that’s how the magic happens and from getting ready, you just become ready. And butterflies have a great deal in this.

Bottom line, if I am there… or shall I say, my butterflies and I?… for that exam, presentation, competition, job, or that next level something…it means I am ready.

Approaching the end of the professional coaching training program I am following, I have recently received a similar question again: Are you ready to be a professional coach?

In light of all the above, my answer stays the same, short and non-debatable: Yes, I am.

What about you? Are you ready for what’s next in line for you? And, most of all, what’s your secret ingredient?

Anișoara Roșca

Diary of a coach-to-be (II)

By Anișoara Roșca

What’s more important, the coaching relationship or the coaching process?

I know…I know…it’s a tricky question. It makes me remember a question from my childhood for which I had troubles in finding the proper answer, therefore, I usually chose the “politically correct” one, although I knew nothing about politics back then. Yup, that question: “Who do you love more, mom or dad?”. My answer back then: “Both.”

What’s interesting about coaching is that, although if seen from outside, it might look like a simple dialogue between the coach and the client, once the dialogue has a purpose, as defined by the client, it can become a powerful journey where the magic happens. 

What’s the magic that can happen? It depends on what the client is willing to explore in that journey. It can be an increased self-awareness or maybe, discovering what the client already knows and making that information more ready-to-be-used in the daily life or sometimes, understanding what knowledge he/she might need to add or actions he/she might need to take for reaching the targeted destination. Don’t get me wrong. It’s not like having a magic wand that can turn wishes into reality… Then again, sometimes the feeling one gets to have at the end of the journey it’s pretty close to that. 

So, who’s the magic wand, then? To me, the client is. The coaching session might be just the right scenery for “the magic wand” to explore and find new ways to grow “its” own potential to make things happen.

Well then, what needs to be right in the scenery/coaching session for “the wand” to find new ways to put its magic into action when back into the world? One might say: “A lot of things are needed.” And they might be right. But in the interest of time, I would group them as follows: 

  • the client and his/her desire to work on its magic or “the wand”
  • a defined objective or “the wish”
  • a commonly agreed partnership between client and coach that evolves into a coaching relationship, so “the relationship” and 
  • a process to be followed or, to do it justice, especially for those moments when it reaches its best shape, let’s better call it “the flow”.

Assuming we know who “the wand” and “the wish” are, let’s have a look at the last two. 

The coaching relationship is just that partnership, or better said, it starts with it and ends with it and in itself is a small universe built on a lot of ingredients: mutual trust, openness, willingness to explore possibilities to grow, client-centricity and coach’s active presence, genuine curiosity and flexibility and so much more. It’s simple and complex, at the same time, as every relationship is. 

So, the remaining point of the scenery is the process behind or the map of the journey with the departure, the itinerary itself and the destination. The coaching process is built mainly through purpose-driven dialogue based on coach’s ability to ask questions that help the client to willingly explore and expand own perspectives and options and, in the same time, to identify the appropriate next steps towards the outcome the client desires. It’s as simple and as complex as the relationship itself, isn’t it?

Now, let’s look back to our initial question: “What’s more important, the coaching relationship or the coaching process?” 

Well, in this equation, I would go with the same answer: “Both. They are both equally important.”

Maybe with one small amendment… They are all important, but, if I am to choose, it all starts with the “wand”. That’s where the magic happens.  

What about you? Who do you love more?

Anișoara Roșca

Journal of a Coach

Who am I as a Coach?

by Anca Voaides Coanda, Alumni and Certified Coach, One 2 Coach

Who am I as a coach ?… I am sitting down and thinking about what actually am I as a coach. I talk about coaching almost every day in different contexts – at the office, in conversations with others accompanied by coffee, with my mom.

The coaching has long ago passed the professional frontier and is filling my life in a surprising way. It happens that my mother is calling me and says, “Anca, I have an issue, I do not want an advice, I want to coach me.” I sometimes have coaching conversations with my partner and, unlike what “canons” are saying (it’s not good to do coaching with your life partner), for us as a couple these dialogues where we are curiously listening and asking each other questions are helping us a lot and allow us to become, separate and together, wiser and more conscious.

My relationship with coaching started more than six months ago. Why did I choose to do this training? I very much wanted to do this because I think that every human being is an important resource and has value.

During this training period as a coach I have realized about the mission, the values, the inspiration, the treasure that exists in every human being, waiting to be discovered; and about coaching as a nearly magic dialogue in which a human being (the coach) offers support to another human being(the coachee) to discover their own treasure/gifts.

During this training, I have made for the first time an exercise that changed my life – I discovered my personal values ​​and formulated my mission in life. There I learned about myself that I am a “supporter for self-knowledge” – that this is what I want to have as purpose in life and to have this role in the lives of others.

For me, the coaching is a way of being in relationship with others. It is the art of listening in order to understand, not to fight. It’s the ability not to judge. It is the virtue of being “not disappointed ever”, as somebody dear to me was saying. It is the privilege of accompanying another human being on his/her path of his/her own becoming, always knowing that that road is not mine and that my role as a coach is not of a guide but of a partner.

As a coach, I want to offer to my client a dialogue in which in he/she can become aware of the interferences with his/her potential and eliminate them. I want to offer a conversation in which to ask curious questions meant to generate revelations in him/her-self. I have the role of putting a mirror in front of the coachee- to become aware of his/her own limits and the inner resources that she/he has.

Above all, coaching is working with yourself. For me it meant profound transformation. It gave me more confidence and trust in the potential and the value in every human being that I am encountering.

It gave me the assurance that we can all learn and we can all overcome our limits. It made me a better listener. It taught me to be truly present, body and mind in every conversation that I have. It has generated a deeper and more honest dialogue with myself.

In those months I have learned that the only condition for someone, anyone, to benefit from the tremendous transformation that coaching brings is to really want it.

I am absolutely convinced that the process of transformation can happen in many ways. Coaching is just one of them. However, I think it is a path worth exploring, being built on the simplest and most used human capacity – the dialogue.

Who am I as a coach? I am Anca with a sincere availability for listening, with the ability to refrain from judging and with the courage to ask those questions that really matter not to me but to the other person in front of me.

What is a systemic constellation?

 

 

 

 

by Oana Pop, Coach and Systemic Facilitator

A constellation is an external map of an internal and implicit reality. It is a method that taps into the intuitive knowing that we all have – the “felt sense” of a situation.

It is a process in which a systemic facilitator works with an individual client in service of a question or an intention that the issue holder brings. It might be something related to the current role in the organization: “How do I fully step into the authority of my role as a manager?” or something related to patterns that keep repeating: “What is happening between the sales and the production department that they keep having conflicts?”.

At the beginning, the facilitator accompanies the client in exploring the current situation to get a sense of what are the important elements that are connected to the question or intention – for example – the sales manager, the production manager, and the clients.

Afterwards, the client is invited to pick participants from the group to represent these elements and sets them up in relation to one another in a way that expresses their felt sense of the current situation.

The facilitator then invites the client to sit back, be fully present and observe what goes on between the representatives. This heightened attention serves the question because it enables the client to get a bigger and more attuned picture of what is going on. With that, comes a deeper understanding of “what is actually going on in this system?” and “how does this problem or dynamic make sense in the bigger picture?”. “Who or what does it serve?”

This is where the constellation moves from being an X-ray vision of what is happening below skin level, to being a systemically informed intervention that addresses the flow of information, energy and leadership.

The facilitator uses short and revealing sentences that address the ways we unknowingly resist the flow of energy towards the purpose of the organization and, implicitly, the future. The unresolved issues of the organization show up in the dynamics that entangle various members of the system. And, even though these members might not have been directly involved in what happened There and Then, they unknowingly step into a repeating pattern that is meant to maintain “the past in the present” until it is acknowledged and fully integrated in the awareness of leaders.

Nothing Ever Goes Away Until It Has Taught Us What We Need to Know – Pema Chodron

Exploring entanglements in which the present compensates for something being off balance or excluded in the past or discovering deeply held loyalties to members or important elements of the system that have been denied a respected place in the hearts and minds of people within the organization, makes flow possible because it frees people of what they were unconsciously trying to do for the system.

Energy becomes available and people can really look towards the future and the key elements the organization serves – clients, purpose, people. This is the land of possibilities that we can reach during a constellation. It is the place where we need to ask ourselves “What becomes possible now in this new set up?”. It is the emergent future, that we, as leaders, are invited to serve through the work and services of our organizations.

Taking part in a constellation is a very rich learning process that allows us to see the essence of the paradox we are all struggling with – we unknowingly produce outcomes that we do not actually want and, that while doing so, we are driven by powerful systemic forces that serve the coherence of the whole organization, forces that do not submit to individual will – much like the weather and gravity.

While taking part in a constellation we discover a deeper truth about the problems we are faced with. We understand that problems want to be understood, not solved. This means that instead of trying to make a different reality than the one we are confronted with, the constellation process requires our attunement into reality as it is and offers a context in which we deeply understand “how is this problem a solution?”

We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time”. T. S. Eliot

 

Embodiment in Coaching. Somatic Intelligence: Working with and through the Body-Mind

by Paul King
©The Beyond Partnership Ltd 2016

Head, heart and guts are in intimate relationship and everything we do shows up in the body. In this article, I explore how we can learn to operate as an integrated whole. It was first published by Association for Coaching in Coaching Perspectives magazine October 2016.

Our thinking and emotions are not ‘out of body experiences,’ but we do seem to have lost touch with what is happening inside us. The body is more than something we carry around, feed, perhaps exercise and park overnight. The somatic field in coaching brings the body into the room alongside the mind, and emotional intelligence as an equal and collaborative partner for influence and change. Generally speaking, where the body has been considered it has more often been ‘at effect’ rather than ‘at cause’. However, the body not only reflects our psycho-emotional patterns; it also influences them.

Evolutionary imperatives are stored in our bodies. So is our personal history, which shows up in muscle tone, posture, movement patterns and energy flow, all of which orientate us (prejudice us) to certain perceptions, actions and reactions. Without awareness and attention, the bodies we are can become our future.

Neuroscience has helped us technically to understand the process of our mind and neurology. Research shows that the majority of our behaviours are not cognitively and consciously controlled, but are rather a function of our instinctive neurology and habitual, learned patterns fired into action before we are consciously aware of them. The triune brain model and Polyvagal Theory of Stephen Porges1 shows that we are hardwired to be alert to danger and to react to threat by fighting, fleeing, freezing, or folding, or by seeking safety through social engagement if available.

In response to fear and stress we typically, one way or another, contract and separate ourselves from others. The trouble is, we forget or lack the awareness to release that contraction. It stays in the body and becomes a pattern impacting on bodily function and psychological orientation. We maintain tension in the system and become less attuned and sensitive to signals inside and out. By contrast you might have seen a passenger with their dog on the London Underground: as they get off the dog shakes itself, releasing the stress held in their system. Like the dog we need to do a whole lot of shaking or its equivalent in a context of persistent low-grade stressors.

How do we healthily manage the stressors of the modern world, bring our best selves, and leverage the best of our biological inheritance to our daily living? Somatic work in its best, integrated forms provides a technology, philosophy and practices to explore our personal and integrated answers to those questions.

We need to get our head, heart and hara (body centre in Japanese) working together and aligned. In our life’s journey we develop strategies for survival that frequently put these at odds with each other, not intentionally but as a consequence of the best solutions we could come up with at the time. Repeated over a lifetime they become habitual patterns of our psycho-emotional-physical world.

This is the territory of the Leadership Embodiment (LE) work of Wendy Palmer, which in The Beyond Partnership we incorporate with other influences under the frame of Somatic Intelligence. LE makes a simple distinction between Personality and Centre. Personality seeks to manage the environment to create the security it needs. It references the external world with our head seeking control, ourhe art approval, and our gut safety. As a process it is highly energy consuming. In contrast, Centre references neither self alone nor other, but is in relationship. Being Centred is a state of equanimity and alignment: our sense of ‘okayness’ is inherent, not dependent on context – and therefore requires less energy to maintain. This helps us move beyond fight/ flight and keep the pathways to our prefrontal cortex clearer. It is not dissimilar to that feeling of being ‘in the zone.’ ‘Coming from Centre’ is, however, contrary to our typical functioning – it must be learned.

LE work uses partner activities as simulators of life’s stressors and challenges set within various scenarios. We discover for example our non-verbal expression as a leader or follower in different contexts. Engaging the body, we move beyond ideas into physically felt experience. Participants are invited to work with the presupposition that how the body responds will be a reflection of their Personality patterns in response to life stressors. We cannot deny what the body has just done: the body does not lie.

Activities are designed to identify our default psycho-emotional patterns under pressure, i.e. our Personality at work, which may or may not be fit for purpose, and then to learn how to meet those same pressures from a place of Centre initiated primarily through reorganising the body. We learn how to speak up in the face of resistance, listen without taking it personally and generally organise ourselves to meet well whatever or whoever is in front of us.

The practices of LE and somatic intelligence are about creating the awareness and responsive capacity to override, rather than succumb to, our default patterning and biological inheritance, when it serves us to do so. Under threat and pressure, we naturally put up a boundary and narrow our vision. The issue is how quickly we can get back to Centre.

LE is not about stress reduction (we are actually programmed to deal with stress), but about using stress, and learning how to turn pressure into a resource: how to get the cortisol, oxytocin and testosterone hormonal mix right to act from resilience through working with the breath and posture.

Cortisol supports fight-or-flight and triggers contraction in the muscles while also reducing access to our higher order thinking, useful when the need is for a quick reaction without conscious deliberation. Cortisol’s presence in the body is meant to be short term, but with today’s persistent pressures, patterns of muscle tightness and inadequate attention to recovery, it is regularly generated and held in the system. Over time these levels of cortisol weaken the immune system While contracting the flexor muscles for more than a minute stimulates cortisol production, activating extensor muscles raises testosterone, the hormone that opens us to big-picture thinking, greater confidence and more tolerance for risk-taking. The other key hormone in the mix is oxytocin. Released through felt connection to another it generates a sense of care and relatedness. In working with the body LE deliberately induces hormonal shifts for positive outcomes.

Our resilience and capacity to be at our best under pressure can be supported by being open in our posture, increasing our sense of length, softening the front of our body (a gentle smile helps), and working with the breath to bring our autonomic nervous system into balance.

Working with the body offers short cuts and quick wins to shifting the quality of one’s thinking and emotional states. When we are under stress our unconscious habits will usually win out. If the body is not ‘online’, the mind will not sustain its intent. Willpower is a limited and highly energy consuming faculty.

Somatic Intelligence is about helping clients present their strength and confidence combined with warmth and compassion and a clear perception from their Centre – all with a certain ease. It is about learning to shift beyond our habit of organising ourselves around what is resisting us. As one person described it, ‘It is connecting to our most vital source of knowing.’

Some key principles and intentions of Somatic Intelligence:
 Connect to Centre
 Balance and equanimity
 Stay open and inclusive in the face of pressure
 Listen without taking it personally
 Speak your truth with clarity and without aggression or attachment
 Be with what is without judgement
 Extend and include, not contract and separate
 Alignment of head, heart and hara (gut) – cognition, emotions, intuition and instinct.
 Transparency
 Comfortable with not knowing, remaining balanced and open, listening to the signals
 Working with patterns and emergence, not fixing solutions from the start

Please note: these are processes, not final states. The practice is learning how to re-find Centre and the other qualities quickly, when we need to.

As coaches, somatic intelligence and its practices enable us to develop and support ourselves and our clients, to bring the body fully on board and be our best. As a somatic coach we use our own body-mind to coach as well as coaching the body-mind of the client.

A workshop participant asked for 1:1 coaching on an issue she had been working on for some time. I met her a couple of weeks later and listened to her story. Then she took a break to go to the loo. I watched her walk down the corridor and suddenly realised: there is her pattern! Her walk was contained, her arms barely moving. She was looking down and I saw a certain instability from everything held in tension. On her return I proposed we experiment with her walk, engaging her arms and focusing on her pelvis and hips. Her head raised and her self-presentation shifted noticeably. She said she felt her outline for the first time and also felt a little bold and brazen. Even a small body shift can sometimes feel huge and challenging. We played with toning this down, and then related her experience to the issue at hand. Over the coming weeks she practised her walking and felt bigger, more ‘grown up’ and less dependent on other people. We continued to refine this and add other practices over further sessions to create choice in how she responded and greater resourceful freedom to step forward into the world as she wanted.

The internet and social media have grown our circle of concern and potentially also our circle of influence, although it can conversely feel as if this is diminishing. However, there is at last an increasing demand from the world, including the business world, for a greater appreciation of interrelationships, connectivity and sensitivity, and for a healthier expression of power. As coaches we need to learn how to engage the body alongside our mind and emotions, to have more discrimination, and to move to opening and including rather than contracting and separating – and help our clients do likewise. Greater connectivity and sensitivity to ourselves and our body-mind enables greater connectivity and sensitivity to others and to the dynamics and challenges of this complex world.

Paul King
paul@thebeyondpartnership.co.uk .
www.thebeyondpartnership.co.uk

First published by Association for Coaching in Coaching Perspectives magazine October 2016.

Paul King is co-founder with Marie Faire of The Beyond Partnership. Paul has been a coach, consultant and trainer for more than 25 years with a passion for integral, holistic and somatic approaches, and has worked in Europe, North America and Asia. He works with a range of clients including senior executives, business owners, athletes, artists, teachers and others. His early career was with Deloittes and PWC. Paul was the first person in Europe to be certified to train Conscious and Leadership Embodiment by Wendy Palmer and has studied with
numerous somatic teachers. He is a NLP Trainer, an Inner Game Coach, a Tai Chi teacher and is trained in Feldenkrais (Movement Re-Education).

REFERENCES
1 Porges, S. (2007). ‘The Polyvagal Perspective’. US National Library of Medicine. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1868418/

FURTHER READING
Carney, D. R., Cuddy, A.J., & Yap, A.J. (2010). ‘Power Posing: Brief Nonverbal Displays Affect Neuroendocrine Levels and Risk Tolerance.’ Psychological Science OnlineFirst, published 21 September 2010.
Palmer W. & Crawford J. (2013). Leadership Embodiment. Create Space Independent Publishing Platform.
Strozzi-Heckler, R. (2007). The Leadership Dojo. Frog Ltd. (2007)
Huang Al Chung- Liang (1973). Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain. Real People Press.
Minton, K. & Ogden, P. (2006). Trauma and the Body. W.W. Norton & Company.
Damasio, A. (2000). The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness. Mariner Books.
Feldenkrais, M. (1990). Awareness Through Movement. HarperOne.
Barlow, W. (1990). The Alexander Principle. Prentice Hall.

JUST BE Prepared in a Growing Industry like Coaching

Coaching is a relatively new profession, although the abilities that a coach is developing and using have their roots in the ancient schools. One power of coaching is to create awareness that “is the greatest agent for change[1]”. Therefore we should also be aware about the developments in the coaching industry in order to be prepared and to get the flexibility needed within the changes that are happening worldwide.

The global trends are showing that the coaching industry is growing and the market is becoming more competitive. The scientific research about coaching is already available and ongoing, providing a scientific basis for the coaching results and offering this way the premises to become even more accepted as discipline/profession.

In a fast changing environment, the coaching skills are already expected also from the managers, leaders, teachers, caretakers etc. Moreover, in a globalized economy with easy access to technology, the coaches and managers are working more and more across borders. So we should extend our overview in time and space in setting our growth strategies.

As coaching profession becomes more and more popular and widespread, it is natural to see the customer requirements to be more oriented towards coaches with international/national certifications – proving this way high professional standard (including the code of ethics) and ongoing learning processes. And the global data is showing exactly this as 83% of the respondents in a 2017 ICF study stated it was either important or very important that their coach has a certification/credential (89% in the emerging markets).

The awareness about coaching is on the rise, yet there are challenges that the market is still facing – out of the 65% of those who said they are very or somewhat aware of professional coaching, around 2/3 are still confusing coaching with other disciplines like mentoring, consulting, training, counseling (in both developed and emerging markets).  This is showing how important is for the professional coaches and the institutions related to continue to increase the awareness about professional coaching and to make clear distinction between coaching and other professions/disciplines.

Why a client choses to partner with a coach?

The main reasons why the clients are seeking coaching are: (1) to optimize individual/team work performance, (2) to improve the communication skills, (3) to increase productivity, (4) to expand professional career opportunities, (5) increase self-esteem/self-confidence and (6) improve work/life balance.

Although the top reasons for pursuing coaching look like this, the most commonly cited outcome of coaching are “improved communication skills” , “increase self-esteem/self-confidence” and “increased productivity” the other outcomes following (based on the reasons mentioned above).

Who are the coaching clients?

ICF succeeded to generate under the 2017 Global Consumer Awareness Study five customer general profiles for the established (developed) and emerging markets.

United States – the customer is woman, 18-24 years old, considering herself “somewhat aware” of coaching, more likely to confuse coaching with counseling. She has been coached, being very satisfied with coaching experience, paying for own coaching services and would consider becoming a coach.

Asia – the customer is man, 25-34 years old, very aware about coaching, has participated in a coaching relationship. Coaching is available to all in workplace and the services are paid by someone else. He is satisfied with coaching experience and he would consider becoming a coach.

Latin America – with two types of general customers: (1) woman of 25-34 years old, aware of coaching and more likely to confuse coaching with counseling, very satisfied with coaching experience, paying for own coaching services and would consider becoming a coach, and (2) man of 35-44 years old, very aware about coaching, has participated in a coaching relationship, coaching is available in his workplace and the services are paid by someone else, being somewhat satisfied with coaching experience and would consider becoming a coach.

Eastern Europe – the general customer is a man of 53-71 years old, somewhat aware of coaching. He has participated in coaching relationship, the services being paid by someone else, although coaching is not available in his workplace. He is somewhat satisfied with coaching experience and is unsure about becoming a coach.

These profiles are designed to enhance the understanding of current and prospective coaching consumers, highlighting the prevailing themes and not considering that everyone in each profile has the same characteristics.

Sources: “2017 ICF Global Consumer Awareness Study”, ICF and PWC

[1] Eckhart Tolle

Journal of a Coach – First day of School

I had no idea, when I started coaching, that I was embarking on a journey that would transform my life.

A friend I had not seen for about 20 years told me about coaching: he had changed his job, and now he was a coach, which seemed to make him very happy. He was telling me how his clients’ lives changed as a result of coaching. Then he added, in passing, that he was going to start a new course. Without thinking too much, I asked the school contacts and signed up.

At the beginning of the course, when I was sitting in a circle, I had a sense of familiarity, although I did not know anyone else. It was like a meeting of ‘old souls’.

After a brief introduction of what coaching is and what is not, we were divided into triads to get started and the coaches were told not to say a word but to accompany the client, “coaching style”.

My client was telling the story, when suddenly in my mind arose the impossible question “why.” The customer replied immediately: “Yes, I know, you ask me why, but …”. I had heard my thoughts …

After the session, we gathered in the ‘big hora’ to share our experiences after our first coaching session. I also told myself the story with the client who heard my thoughts. “But you asked me why.”, My client said. “No, I did not ask.” I responded laughing. “Yes, I know I heard you,” he insisted. (“Did I ask?”). The facilitator intervened and asked the observer (how well the observer exists!), Who confirmed that no questions had been asked during the coaching session. “I was sure I heard the question …” the client mumbled.

Angela Cristea, Alumni and Certified Coach, One2Coach

Journal of a Coach – Actor or Director?

“Who made this presentation? It’s kind of ugly. You, aren’t you? I was convinced. You’re not really good at making visual presentations, your luck is that you deliver them a little better. ”

I had heard variations on this topic many times. And the sequel was very simple: I was back in the office and told myself that I was not good enough, that I was not able to do the right thing, that I was disappointed. Perhaps I would still be there today if on one day, during such an exchange, I had not realized that I was nothing more than a receiver of words and that I had no control over my emotions. I was just actor in a scene that needed me as a director. I was just reacting to each other’s replies without understanding my own tricks. Moreover, because of this lack of understanding, I felt captive to a vicious circle: I was not able to formulate an intent to get me out of the whirlpool and even less to make a change. I have come to wonder what other situations in my life we ​​repeat the same pattern …

I realized I could not go forward alone, so I asked for help. I received it as a personal development process whose purpose was to gain clarity, to know and to understand my feelings. The result was that I began to teach myself. As you outline paths on the map when you try to map new territories, so I made the first step in self-discovery and I was able to map my emotions. I realized that the reactions I had, the negative thoughts about not being good enough reduced to a simple but powerful emotion: fear … of failure, not to disappoint the person I saw as having authority. Through this process I turned to genuine childhood emotions, I learned to recognize them again, to name them. Although often disguised as complex adult problems, they are the same emotions and the same mechanisms that formed in childhood and which were buried under filters, social rules and projections. And this self-awareness led to a “cleanliness” of the environment, a clarity in relationships, because I began to see the emotions, the motivations behind the words and the frustrations expressed by those around me.

Everything sounds so good on paper … The real challenge from now on is not only to be aware of my and others’ emotions but to have the power to turn them into useful tools to me and not to let them dominate, so far. But that’s already a story for another time.

Cătălina Marin, Alumni and Certified Coach One2Coach

Journal of a Coach – “Coaching is Learning”

Coaching is one of the ways people learn. I grew up with the idea of ​​having an university degree and a stable job, and that’s all about learning.

I grew up as the concepts of lifelong learning appeared more and more and I enjoyed it. It was a sign that the mandate of learning was being extended, that it continued after college.

Today I find it increasingly clear that it is our main activity as humans. We are progressing as a species because we learn and share learning, for the benefit of all.

Coaching is one of the deepest forms of learning. It turns you around. It pushes you to the edge of the abyss to look at you … and from there it embraces you in the most beautiful way.

It is alive, uncertain, rich and full of kindness. It may scare you that you have no idea where you are going, how it turns you, how it makes you feel that you have no resources, and that you will not have anywhere else to go. But all this tells you your mind.

What’s most beautiful when you grow up through coaching is that you get these great lessons of life in a good way for you. I mean, it does not let you fall, be rebellious and say it’s a crazy exercise, a jump into void towards unknown. It is waiting for you to be prepared, to let as you are, to be an adult and to go out more right with you from that session.

So while I was training as a coach, from the client role I chose the objective I had for that session and then who knows where I was going. I kept my observer as long as I could, and I kept wondering, “What am I to learn from here?”

Today I look at the coaching session as a session where a person is ready to grow up with himself and learn the lessons he is willing to assume, live and transform into a man as he pleases . Coaching is learning in the most assumed, conscious and profound way.

Corina Gheonea, Community Strategist – UiPath Romania

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